Fear of failure and not standing out from the crowd will not get you far up the ladder of success
article by Diane Shawe M.Ed. Ed
Four monkeys were placed in a room that had a tall pole in the center. Suspended from the top of that pole was a bunch of bananas. One of the hungry monkeys started climbing the pole to get something to eat, but just as he reached out to grab a banana, he was doused with a torrent of cold water.
Squealing, he scampered down the pole and abandoned his attempt to feed himself.
Each monkey made a similar attempt, and each one was drenched with cold water. After making several attempts, they finally gave up.
Then researchers removed one of the monkeys from the room and replaced him with a new monkey. As the newcomer began to climb the pole, the other three grabbed him and pulled him down to the ground.
After trying to climb the pole several times and being dragged down by the others, he finally gave up and never attempted to climb the pole again.
The researchers replaced the original monkeys, one by one, and each time a new monkey was brought in, he would be dragged down by the others before he could reach the bananas.
In time, the room was filled with monkeys who had never received a cold shower. None of them knew why.
Someone once asked me a question: “When have you ever seen a removal van following a coffin?”
I found this the last wise words to be said ntabrazil@hotmail.com.br Steve Jobs and I share them with you today.
I have come to the pinnacle of success in business.
In the eyes of others, my life has been the symbol of success.
However, apart from work, I have little joy. Finally, my wealth is simply a fact to which I am accustomed.
At this time, lying on the hospital bed and remembering all my life, I realize that all the accolades and riches of which I was once so proud, have become insignificant with my imminent death.
In the dark, when I look at green lights, of the equipment for artificial respiration and feel the buzz of their mechanical sounds, I can feel the breath of my approaching death looming over me.
Only now do I understand that once you accumulate enough money for the rest of your life, you have to pursue objectives that are not related to wealth.
It should be something more important:
For example, stories of love, art, dreams of my childhood.
No, stop pursuing wealth, it can only make a person into a twisted being, just like me.
God has made us one way, we can feel the love in the heart of each of us, and not illusions built by fame or money, like I made in my life, I cannot take them with me.
I can only take with me the memories that were strengthened by love.
This is the true wealth that will follow you; will accompany you, he will give strength and light to go ahead.
Love can travel thousands of miles and so life has no limits. Move to where you want to go. Strive to reach the goals you want to achieve. Everything is in your heart and in your hands.
What is the world’s most expensive bed? The hospital bed.
You, if you have money, you can hire someone to drive your car, but you cannot hire someone to take your illness that is killing you.
Ignorance is not blissM
Material things lost can be found. But one thing you can never find when you lose: life.
Whatever stage of life where we are right now, at the end we will have to face the day when the curtain falls.
Please treasure your family love, love for your spouse, love for your friends…
Treat everyone well and stay friendly with your neighbours.
Don’t let toxic people kill your business or energy
It will come as no surprise to some of you but, there are three personality types that could end up sabotaging your small business, management committee or think tank team to the point where you end up not working on your business or project but working in it.
Most of us have been there. That one personality that just drives you to distraction and no matter what you do, they seem to be in complete denial.
A staggering number of small businesses have sprung up since 2014 according to the FSB 2015 report.
There were a record 5.4 million private sector businesses at the start of 2015.
This is an increase of 146,000 since 2014 and 1.9 million more since 2000.
The number of employing businesses increased by 35,000 and the number of non-employing businesses by 112,000, with the annual growth for both groups being around +3%.
Small businesses accounted for 99.3% of all private sector businesses at the start of 2015 and 99.9% were small or medium-sized (SMEs).
Total employment in SMEs was 15.6 million; 60% of all private sector employment in the UK.
The combined annual turnover of SMEs was £1.8 trillion, 47% of all private sector turnover in the UK.
Most of these business owners would have experienced high staff turnover, partnership problems, customer complaints all of which then culminate into cash flow problems or problems with people who become perpetual saboteurs.
Lets take a look at the personality types
1 People Who Like to Be Right
2 People Who Like to Be Comfortable
3 People Who Like to Be Liked
4 People Who Like to WIN
So most of us when we are looking for someone to join the team, we are often working with a low budget which does not stretch to complicated personality assessment or expensive recruitment companies who want large upfront fees. So we tend to end up going on the ‘Oh you CV is impressive’ or ‘WoW we really get on’ or ‘Yes you so get my business needs’
But is that really enough?
Here are some key indicators that the person you’re working with or about the hire may have such a personality type:
#1 People Who Like To Be Right
They challenge your coaching
They argue with you
They say “I know that” but then do not take action
Have difficulty receiving feedback
Need to have the last word
Need to justify their choices
This personality type will make it difficult when it comes to creating duplication, receiving and implementing constructive ideas if they’re building a business with you. At the interview they may make you feel uncomfortable, but impress you at the same time.
#2 People Who Like To Be Comfortable
Here are some key indicators that the person you’re speaking with fits this personality type:
Afraid to take risks
Fine with watching TV every night instead of focusing on their business growth
Has difficulty implementing coaching
Comfortable in the current situation that they’re in
Very specific on task and hours of work
This style of person will struggle with being a self-starter and will consistently need motivation from YOU in order to build and grow the business. At the interview they may state a lot about the type of people they don’t like which could be describing themself.
#3 People Who Like To Be Liked
Here are some key indicators that the person you’re speaking with fits this personality type:
Need approval from others
Don’t want to rock the boat
People pleaser
Loves life when everyone is happy around them
Will say yes to others even if they disagree
Are afraid of going against the grain and looking different
This personality will have a very hard time with difficult conversations will often appear very latargic and not very helpful. They don’t want to be seen as the bad guy or gal. At the interview you may not be able to quiet put your finger on it, but you might like them because they seem as though they might not give you any trouble.
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#4 People Who Like To WIN
Here are some key indicators that the person you’re speaking with fits this personality type:
Ready to take on challenges
Have a clear vision of what they want and how they’re going to get there
Coachable
Adapt quickly
Competitive
Have a thick skin and don’t care about what others think
Desire for self growth
When you identify this kind of personality, act fast and figure out how to work with them, because they’re going to be successful with or without you. At the interview they may come across as enthusiastic and focused. Might also want to bring ideas to the table even before they have the job.
Can People Change?
Do you really think it’s possible to change someone’s personality to make them someone who wants to win?
What if there was an easy way to take a look at a personality type so you could better plan how to work with them and help them become a winner?
Check out our Clarity4d Profiler and learn how it could benefit you and your team
The Prince’s Trust has launched a new programme designed to support young people who are at risk of underachieving at school or college to engage with and succeed in education.
The Prince’s Trust Achieve programme is a flexible provision for 13-19 year olds who are experiencing challenges with attendance, attainment or motivation and may be at risk of exclusion or not attaining the grades they are capable of. It incorporates the best of the youth charity’s existing xl and Fairbridge programmes, which have long helped young people of school age to reach their potential, both in education and in their future employment.
The need for alternative curriculum offerings like Achieve remains clear, with a third of school-leavers still not achieving five A*-C grade GCSEs and more than half of young people in Scotland not achieving 5 National Fives. The situation is even worse for young people from disadvantaged backgrounds, who are far more likely to fail to achieve at these levels than their peers.
The new Achieve programme is designed to help disadvantaged young people who are struggling to develop important character skills through relevant, engaging and informal learning. It will connect young people with the world of work and equip them with the transferrable skills and knowledge they need to succeed, focusing particularly on literacy, language and numeracy (LLN) and science, technology, engineering and maths (STEM).
According to Richard Chadwick, Director of Programmes and Development at The Prince’s Trust, “Too many students in the UK become disengaged with education and leave school or college with few qualifications, low levels of confidence and low aspirations for the future. We have a long history of working successfully with education providers to combat this problem and have drawn on our expertise in youth based work to develop our new Achieve programme, which is our most flexible provision yet for people of school age.”
Young people will be able to access Achieve from August 2016 in schools, colleges or, in some regions, at a Prince’s Trust Centre. Further Education providers can also deliver the programme as NEET prevention, either as a part time study programme or as part of a full time study programme.
This year, The Prince’s Trust will work with more than 500 partner schools and organisations to support almost 10,000 young people through the Achieve programme. More information about how a school, college or alternative education provider can deliver the Achieve programme can be found at https://www.princes-trust.org.uk/help-for-young-people/unlock-your-potential/achieve
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