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2 Tips on How To Put Optimism Into Practice On a Daily Basis

Practice being Optimistic each day

Practice being Optimistic each day

Can Optimism be taught?

Being optimistic does not mean forcing yourself to become persuaded that you should always look on the bright side of things. Becoming optimistic is something you can learn. It is a state of mind that is not so hard to assimilate, one that enables you to live quickly the life you want to live.

Optimism is a state of mind

Optimism is a concept that is often poorly explained. Having a high state of mind does not mean that you reject reality because you want everything to be rosy. It means that you can tackle any situation with a state of mind that gives you every chance to take advantage of it or to turn situations around in your favor if you need to.

People often think human beings are either optimistic or pessimistic by nature and that there is nothing we can do about it. This is specifically a cynical way of seeing things! Unfortunately, people often dwell on this incorrect observation.

There are obviously optimistic people. Admittedly, they have an advantage over others, but it does not mean that pessimistic people are destined to remain bleak.

Being optimistic, in a general manner, means that there is a way out of every situation, but it will only show if you do your best, so events turn in your favor.

Being optimistic is not a mere vision of life according to which everybody is good and that all is for the best in the best of all possible worlds, one that consists in denying reality – which often refutes this idyllic point of view.

Being optimistic requires first of all that you be realistic and accept the world as it is: that is, with its positive and negative aspects.

Likewise, you can’t say that people are inherently good because some are, while others are not.

In fact, the truth is more subtle than that because these two tendencies do reside in every one of us. Life consists in expressing our qualities for our own sake but also for that of our dear and near ones or humankind.

To become optimistic, you, first of all, have to be realistic and accept the ambivalence of this world and human beings – they can both be good and bad in turns. The second step is to take action by counting on favorable outcomes to arrive and hoping that the people you’ll meet will adopt a positive attitude. Seeing things this way is fundamental.

First of all, know that, if you are not optimistic by nature, as described in the definition above, you will need some time before you naturally become confident at being optimistic. So, summon your patience. But you may not have to wait for too long if you apply the advice you will find below.

Here is how to bolster your optimism or become optimistic. You may be confronted with two cases:

1.    You have already gone through a situation that did not turn in your favor:

– Do not feel guilty for this failure learn from the experience so you can deal with such a case differently next time.
– Approach the situation in question from a different perspective by visualizing it turning out in your favor and doing what you can so it turns in your favor.

2.    If a situation is unprecedented for you:

–    In this case, it is even easier: approach the situation by visualizing it turning out in your favor and by doing everything you can so things go your way!

These two ways of acting is a learning process which will gradually become second nature to you, helping you to earn one success after another.

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Creating a Win Win situation is not just about Selling

Negotiations outside the box

Negotiations outside the box

Keeping an Open Mind

article by Diane Shawe M.Ed

Have you ever started working on a project and had someone come along with an idea you never thought of that made the project much better? Perhaps it sped up the process, gave it much more depth or meaning, or led to a richer result in some way.

If you were closed-minded about the project, you would not have even noticed that someone came to you with a better suggestion. Being open-minded, however, allowed you to recognise the value and merit of someone else’s ideas, and voila! Things worked out much better than you had ever imagined.

When you apply open-mindedness to negotiating, it helps to support your flexible and adaptable nature. For example, perhaps you set your mind to negotiate the best price you can, but your counterpart approaches you with a better price than you had imagined as your benchmark. If you are open-minded, you hear what your counterpart proposes. If you are closed-minded, you are so focused on the outcome that you might not hear what they offer at all, and you may actually negotiate yourself a weaker deal.

Not every negotiation is about reaching a win-win solution. Sometimes, not everyone can win. For example, when an organization is preparing to downsize, the employees may be looking for the most benefit they can get, but they know that they will not have a job in the end. In collaborative negotiations, your real objective is to reach the best possible result for all parties. This might include some compromise, and should always involve working toward relationships.

Long Term and Short Term Relationships

CPD FrameworkWhen you consider relationships in negotiating, the length of the relationship is very important. If you are negotiating with someone that you will never see again, and with whom you have no investment, go ahead and put everything on the table. This would be the case if you were bargaining about a one-time purchase (such as furniture or a television from a commission based salesman, for example). In many cases, however, you may be looking at a much longer-term relationship. In the case of labour negotiations, many unions have strong negotiators who work with them for many years.

The union negotiators are skilled professionals, and they may approach your meetings very confident that they, themselves, will be around much longer than the current group of managers and negotiators that the employer has. If you are an employer negotiator, you will want to consider the long-term effects of the relationship that you foster, as well as the specific terms that are agreed upon. Expect, for example, that if you are currently negotiating wage or benefit rollbacks, the union is going to be very resistant, and that if you are successful in negotiating those reductions, the union is going to negotiate their reinstatement at the next round.

Labour negotiations are about long-term relationships. Consider also that the terms that you bring up in this kind of negotiation will have a long lasting effect on the company and its employees. The union knows this too, and that it is important to realise that the negotiations are a part of a long-term relationship that can be strengthened or damaged by the results of the negotiations that you are taking part in.

When you are thinking in terms of relationships, be ready to leave some items on the table. That means that some items that you thought were important may not be considered in this round of negotiations. This is one of the times when detaching yourself from the outcome is important; there will be other opportunities to work with this contract or similar ones again, and those may be the times that you will be able to bring those other items to the fore.

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About the Author

Diane Shawe is a speaker, trainer, mentor, consultant, entrepreneur and author with 15 published titles on Amazon.   With more than 25 years of experience. She has personally trained over 2800 people around the world in a variety of fields and has published a number of works. She has contributed to over 100 Kiva Entrepreneur’s around the world.

She was also one of the producers of a Day time Ladies Talk Show in 2015 and Host of one of the UK’s best loved Annual Hair Extensions Awards.

Diane also enjoys oil painting, sailing and clay pigeon shooting. She focuses on topics that she is passionate about in her writing and has attracted over 36,000 followers on her popular blog.

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